Hey Reader,
When I was younger, I took pride in being “adaptable.” I wore it like a badge of honor — proof that I could blend in, be easy to work/socialize with, keep the peace, and make life easier for everyone around me.
What I’ve learned since? For me, “adaptable” was code for people-pleasing. It meant compromising my values to make others comfortable. It meant shrinking, sanding down the sharp edges, and making myself easy to swallow.
The result? Friendships that never felt genuine — or took more energy to maintain than they gave back. A divorce at a young age from someone whose path just didn’t align with mine. And a steady undercurrent of anxiety and depression that came from forcing myself into a box that was never built to hold me.
Now, I still see value in being flexible — but never at the expense of my values. I’ve come too far, fought too hard, and shed too many versions of myself to go back to being “easy.” I’m not sanding down my edges anymore. I’m not going to contort myself into a box that doesn’t fit just to make someone else comfortable. In the world we’re living in — politically, socially, personally — standing up for what matters isn’t optional. If we don’t, we’ll get steamrolled by the ones who are louder. And fuck that.
Weekly Tarot Card.
The Ten of Pentacles is about legacy, community, and the structures that last beyond us. In this card, you see the threads of generations woven together — a reminder that what we build ripples outward, shaping not just our lives but the lives that come after.
But here’s the hard truth: you can build a foundation on being digestible. On masking. On peace-keeping and smoothing your edges to make yourself easier for others to swallow. But what kind of structure does that create? Is it something solid — something you’re proud of? Or is it a flimsy shell that looks stable on the outside but crumbles as soon as weight hits it?
The Ten of Pentacles asks us to check what we’re actually laying down as the base of our lives. Because when the foundation is rooted in our values, our truth, our real selves — that’s when the structure can actually hold. That’s when we leave behind something meaningful. Anything else? It’s just scaffolding for someone else’s comfort.
A Powerful Question.
Where am I still sanding down my edges to keep the peace — and what would happen if I stopped?
See ya next time.
May your edges stay sharp and your foundation stay strong.
